Divorce
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The Third Divorce

The Noble Qur'an - Al Baqarah 2:229-232
The divorce is twice, after that, either you retain her on reasonable terms or release her with kindness. And it is not lawful for you (men) to take back (from your wives) any of your Mahr (bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) which you have given them, except when both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allâh (e.g. to deal with each other on a fair basis). Then if you fear that they would not be able to keep the limits ordained by Allâh, then there is no sin on either of them if she gives back (the Mahr or a part of it) for her Al-Khul' (divorce)[]. These are the limits ordained by Allâh, so do not transgress them. And whoever transgresses the limits ordained by Allâh, then such are the Zâlimûn (wrong-doers, etc.).

And if he has divorced her (the third time), then she is not lawful unto him thereafter until she has married another husband. Then, if the other husband divorces her, it is no sin on both of them that they reunite, provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allâh. These are the limits of Allâh, which He makes plain for the people who have knowledge.

And when you have divorced women and they have fulfilled the term of their prescribed period, either take them back on reasonable basis or set them free on reasonable basis. But do not take them back to hurt them, and whoever does that, then he has wronged himself. And treat not the Verses (Laws) of Allâh as a jest, but remember Allâh's Favours on you (i.e. Islâm), and that which He has sent down to you of the Book (i.e. the Qur'ân) and Al-Hikmah (the Prophet's Sunnah - legal ways - Islâmic jurisprudence, etc.) whereby He instructs you. And fear Allâh, and know that Allâh is All-Aware of everything.
And when you have divorced women and they have fulfilled the term of their prescribed period, do not prevent them from marrying their (former) husbands, if they mutually agree on reasonable basis. This (instruction) is an admonition for him among you who believes in Allâh and the Last Day. That is more virtuous and purer for you. Allâh knows and you know not.   

Permissibility of Children of Divorce 

To Live with the Muslim Mother

Excerpt from Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani's Al Isaba fi Tamyiz al Sahaba:

Jamila bint Thabit bin Abi al-Aflah, sister of Asim, wife of Umar b. al Khattab, was also called Um Asim. Her name used to be 'Assiya (means "intractable") and the Prophet changed it to Jamila (means "beautiful"). After she embraced Islam, she went to Umar and said "I hate my name, give me a name." He said, "You are beautiful (jamila)." She got angry and kept going through names and couldn't find any but her mother's name. So she went to the Prophet (pbuh) and said , "O messenger of Allah, I hate my name." He said, "You are beautiful (jamila)." She got angry again, and said "That's what Umar said!" The Prophet said, "Dont you know that Allah is on Umar's tongue and [in his] heart?"

She married Umar in the year 7 A.H.. After Umar divorced her she married Yazid bin Harithah, with whom she had a son, Abdulrahman. Ibn Sa'd mentions her among the women who took the Bay'ah (Pledge) to the Prophet (pbuh), in his Tabaqat. Ibn Sa'd mentions on the authority of Jabir that Umar said to the Prophet [seeming to indicate remorse] "O Messenger of Allah, I gave Jamila a hard blow because she asked of me what I cannot do." That cryptic remark is a clue to what caused their divorce. They had a son 'Asim. After they were divorced, 'Asim who was a child, lived with his mother. One day Omar saw his son playing and wanted to take him but Jamila did not want to give the young child to Omar. She took the case to Abu Bakr, who was the Caliph at this time. He ruled in Jamila's favor and Omar had to return the child to his mother.

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