The new Muslim or Muslimah revert retains the blessings for all good deeds performed before reversion to Al-Islam!  Yet we are forgiven for our past sins upon embracing Islam!  Masha'Allah!

Hadith - Sahih Bukhari (#70) and Muslim

Hakim ibn Hizam said to the Prophet , "You know that in the days before Islam I used to maintain family ties, free slaves, and give charity.  Will I be rewarded for any of those deeds?"  The Prophet replied, "You accepted Islam with all the good you did in the past."

The Noble Qur'an - Al-Anfal 8:38

Say to those who have disbelieved, if they cease (from disbelief) their past will be forgiven. But if they return (thereto), then the examples of those (punished) before them have already preceded (as a warning).

     Reverts whose parents are not Muslim, are instructed to still maintain ties with their non-Muslim family.  However, they should not look to the non-Muslim family members as Auliya (supporters, maintainers, friends). (Please read about Auliya by clicking here).  

     Reverts must not obey a parent or anyone who attempts to influence disobedience to Allah, subhana watala.

The Noble Qur'an - Luqmaan 31:14, 15

And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination.

But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and in obedience. Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do.

Hadith - Bukhari (#47), Muslim, Dawud, and Tirmidhi

Kulayb ibn Manfa'ah told us, "My grandfather asked the prophet of Allah with whom he should maintain good relations.  (The Prophet replied,) 'Your mother and father, your sister and brother, and then your next of kin.  (This is) an essential responsibility and a relationship that must be maintained.'"

Hadith - Bukhari (#24), Muslim, Dawud, and Ahmad

Sa'd ibn Abi Waqqas said, "Four verses in the Qur'an were revealed concerning me.  My mother had sworn an oath not to eat or drink until I had part company with Muhammad .  So Allah [swt]  revealed: "But if they (both) strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not, but behave with them in the world kindly, and follow the path of him who turns to Me in repentance and in obedience.  Then to Me will be your return, and I shall tell you what you used to do." [The Noble Qur'an - Luqman 31:15]

Hadith - Bukhari (#25), Muslim, and Dawud

Asma' bint Abi Bakr, said, "My mother (who has not yet embraced Islam) visited me in order to restore good relations after the Prophet's treaty (of Hudaybiyah).  I asked the Prophet if I should have anything to do with her, and he replied, 'Yes.' Ibn 'Uyayhan (one of the narrators in the chain) said, "Allah revealed the following concerning her:  "Allah does not forbid you to deal justly and kindly with those who fought not against you on account of religion and did not drive you out of your homes.  Verily, Allah loves those who deal with equity." [The Noble Qur'an 60:8]

     Reverts should invite their family members to Islam

Hadith - Bukhari (#34), Muslim and Ahmad

Abu Kathir said, "I heard Abu Hurayrah say, 'Everyone who has heard of me, even Jews and Christians, has loved me.  You see, I wanted my mother to accept Islam, but she kept on refusing.  I would tell her that she should, but she would refuse.  So I went to the Prophet and asked him to pray to Allah for her, which he did.  When I went home to her that day, (I found that) she had closed the door. (Once I went inside,) She said to me, 'O Abu Hurayrah!  I have embraced Islam.'  When I gave the news to the Prophet , I asked him to pray for me and my mother.  So he said, 'O Allah, Your servants, Abu Hurayrah and his mother, make them beloved to all people!'"

     If one makes a halal (Islamically permissable) oath before becoming Muslim, s/he should still try to fulfill that oath after becoming Muslim.

Hadith - Sahih Bukhari 8.688, Narrated Ibn Umar, r.a.

'Umar said "O Allah's Apostle! I vowed to perform I'tikaf for one night in Al-Masjid-al-Haram, during the Pre-Islamic Period of ignorance (before embracing Islam)." The Prophet said, "Fulfill your vow."

     Do not pray for forgiveness of non-Muslims, even if s/he is a family member.

The Noble Qur'an - At-Taubah 9:113-114

It is not (proper) for the Prophet and those who believe to ask Allah's Forgiveness for the Mushrikun (polytheists, idolaters, pagans, disbelievers in the Oneness of Allah), even though they be of kin, after it has become clear to them that they are the dwellers of the Fire (because they died in a state of disbelief).

And Ibrahim's (Abraham) invoking (of Allah) for his father's forgiveness was only because of a promise he [Ibrahim (Abraham)] that he (his father) is an enemy of Allah, he disassociated himself from him.  Verily Ibrahim (Abraham) was Awwah (one who invokes Allah with humility, glorifies Him and remembers Him much) and was forbearing. (Tafsir Al-Qurtubi).

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Action Items for the uttaqun:

• Maintain ties with family, even if they are non-Muslim, but do not allow yourself to be oppressed.

• Do not obey a parent or anyone whose actions are directing you away from al-Islam.

• Do not pray for the forgiveness of a non-Muslim, even if s/he is a family member.

• Show kindness in dealing with a parent who does not fight against you on account of your faith.

• Encourage family to embrace Al-Islam.

Remember... Allah, subhana watala, sees everything we do!