Polygany
According
to Quran and Sunnah
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Islam permits the muslim man to have up
to, but no more than four wives.
If he does not feel that he can be just and fair between
several women,
he is instructed to have only one. He must consider his
ability to
-
divide his time evenly,
to provide separate living quarters for each woman in a way that
matches
the general standards of the surrounding community, and
to financially provide food and clothing and shelter for all women (and
children
produced as a result).
"...Fear Allah concerning women! Verily you have taken them on the
security
of Allah, and intercourse with them has been made lawful unto you by
words
of Allah. You too have right over them, and that they should not allow
anyone
to sit on your bed whom you do not like. But if they do that, you can
chastise
them but not severely. Their right upon you are that you should provide
them
with food and clothing in a fitting manner. ..."
[Muslim 2803.1,
Narrated Jabir ibn
Abdullah]
He should also be aware of and prepared
for the natural jealousies in women
(Aisha said she was "most jealous of all").
Punishment
for not being Fair between Wives
The Noble
Qur'an - Al-Ma'idah
4:3
And
if you fear that you shall not be able
to deal justly with the orphangirls, then marry (other) women of your
choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be
able
to deal justly (with them), then only one or (the captives and the
slaves)
that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing
injustice.
Hadith
- Sunan of Abu Dawood #2128, Narrated
Abu Hurairah, r.a.
The Prophet (peace be upon him)
said: When a man has two wives and he is
inclined to one of them, he will come on the Day of resurrection with a
side
hanging down [i.e. paralyzed].
Hadith
- Sahih Bukhari 3.130, Narrated
'Aisha, r.a.
Whenever the Prophet intended to proceed on a journey, he used to draw
lots
amongst his wives and would take the one upon whom the lot fell. Once,
before
setting out for Jihad, he drew lots amongst us and the lot came to me;
so
I went with the Prophet; and that happened after the revelation of the
Verse
Hijab (i.e. veiling).
Hadith
- Sahih Bukhari 7.157, Narrated
Al Miswar bin Makhrama
I heard Allah's Apostle (sallallahu aleihi wa sallam) who was
on the pulpit, saying, "Banu Hisham bin
Al-Mughira have requested me to allow them to marry their daughter to
Ali
bin Abu Talib, but I don't give permission, and will not give
permission
unless 'Ali bin Abi Talib divorces my daughter in order to marry their
daughter,
because Fatima is a part of my body, and I hate what she hates to see,
and
what hurts her, hurts me."
Hadith
- Sunan of Abu Dawood, #219, Narrated
Abu Rafi', r.a.
One day the Prophet (peace be
upon him) had intercourse with all his wives.
He took a bath after each intercourse. I asked him: Apostle of Allah,
why
don't you make it a single bath? He replied: This is more purifying,
better
and cleaning.
Hadith
- Sahih Bukhari 9.102, Narrated
'Aisha, r.a.
Allah's Apostle used to like
sweets and also used to like honey, and
whenever he finished the 'Asr prayer, he used to visit his
wives and stay
with them. ...
How NOT
to
Seek an Additional Wife
It is not permissible in the
Islamic religion for the establishment of a
relationship between a man and a woman who is ajanabiyya
to him (lit.
foreign, i.e., marriagable) before marriage. If he is going
to have
more than one wife, he still must do it the proper Islamic way - by
sitting
down to discuss a marriage contract with the woman in the presence of
another
person; being alone leads to too many physical and emotional
temptations.
We should fear Allah, swt, who knows what is best for the man
seeking
a wife. It is best to seek a pious woman, and it is extremely
unwise
to base a marriage on lust.
The Noble
Qur'an - Al-Ma'idah
5:5
...(Lawful
to you in marriage) are chaste women
from the believers and chaste women from those who were given the
Scripture
(Jews and Christians) before your time, when you have given their due
Mahr
(bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of
marriage),
desiring chastity (i.e. taking them in legal wedlock) not committing
illegal
sexual intercourse, nor taking them as girl-friends. ...
The Noble
Qur'an - Al-Ahzab
33:53
...And
when you ask (his wives) for anything
you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts
and
for their hearts. ...
Hadith -
Al-Tirmidhi 3118, Narrated Umar ibn
al-Khattab
,
Tirmidhi transmitted it.
The Prophet
said, "Whenever
a man is alone with
a woman the Devil makes a third."
The noted scholar Ibn 'Uthaimeen has stated: It is the right of the
woman
to make stipulations at the writing of the marriage contract as she
wishes
and if these stipulations do not contradict Islamic law then the
husband
must fulfill them. For example, that he not marry a second wife and
that
if he does to dissolve the first marriage. This is not a problem.
However,
a new prospective wife cannot stipulate that the first wife be divorced
before
he marries her. I must say however that a first wife should not make
such
a stipulation that her husband not marry a second wife. I fear that if
a
woman makes this stipulation that the husband will, if he desires to
marry
a second woman, simply divorce the first one straight away [i.e. not
even
give her consideration] and it would no be to her benefit. Therefore I
advise
the woman not to make such a stipulation because this may be a manner
by
which the husband is able to follow a good sunnah.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: When a man has two wives and he
is
inclined to one of them, he will come on the Day of resurrection with a
side
hanging down.
Action
Items
for the
uttaqun:
Support
polygany as
an Islamic principle. You are allowed your personal feelings over
whether
or not you would do it, but be sure you convey the message that it is
halal,
because it is.
Do
not date a woman
or spend time alone with her until you two are married. Seeking an
additional
wife is not an excuse to date or be promiscuous in any way. Continue to
lower
your gaze to the woman whom you are non-mahram to.
Remember...
Allah, subhana watala,
sees everything we do!
