I was confronted about this issue recently. I'm from Malaysia and over here interracial marriages are common, but the complications are so mind-boggling and complex-it is impossible to discuss about the matter without consulting an outside source for a second opinion. Since the question has come up, I've been thinking about it and always end up at a dead end.
If a Muslim woman marries a Christian man,of course the man would have to convert-but what if religion was just a barrier between two people who just want to be together? What if the man wants to keep his faith,how does this work?
Being brought up a Muslim, it is a fundamental belief, something that is self-evident that when marrying a person of a different race or religion, the other person would have to convert.This, to me, might not seem fair to the other person as he/she has to do it of thier own free will, and if they dont want to gove up their faith? what then?
Do we give up on the relationship itself? I mean, this might seem like the easiest solution but it is much more complicated than that. There are emotions involved, and if things turn out wrong, both parties may be greviously hurt. Some may say, hurt now, thank later, but what if its already too late?
In the end its just two people who love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives with each other, no one else. And they just happen to be from diffrernt backgrounds and have different religions. How is this solves? CAN it be solved? I'm really confused. Please mail me at

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If you marries a Christian & he does NOT convert,
what is to become of your child? A Muslim? A
Christian? A mix-bag of Christian & Muslim
beliefs? Or both of you just going to sit back &
let the confused child find his own way? If you
are weak, the child will definitely be a
Christian. believe me. Then again, you wouldn't
mind, since you get the man you love so much to be
with you. But in the end, everything will come to
pass. We WILL all face God to be accounted. And
your Christian Child will demand from you why you
did not save him from "Kufur". Will the man you
love so much then will be able to intercede & save
your child in the next world? Only Allah knows.
But then it'll be too late then.

If two people truly love each other, more than they love any other mortal being, on Earth they will only be happy together. Only happy parents can raise good children, that is why marriage is so important.

Children of Muslims are usually Muslim themselves, children of Christians usually stay Christian, because they are forced to believe, because they have no choice, and can't compare the different paths.

If the two parents are of different faiths, its a unique situation.. they will both teach the children what they believe, and when the child grows up, the child will have a CHOICE... and if the child sees that Islam is the right path, the child will take it.

Remember also that it is the mother who mostly raises the children, if the mother is Muslim the children will probably be Muslim too.

I dont believe that if a mother is muslim then the child will probably be muslim too. The child will grow up with a mixed understanding of islam. Even if the man in question tells you that he doesnt mind you raising your children as muslims - things change- trust me i've seen this happen.
Secondly its not even islamically allowed for woman to marry a non muslim man. Your marriage would not be valid.
Sister you may be happy now but think about your children and put your islam first and fear Allah

Mika'il

Your child will proabaly have the compassion and tolerance of a Christian and the ascetism and agression of a Muslim. The two should make a child who is able to stand up for himself without needing to resolve to aggression, one who loves his fellow human being without fear and who is not trapped by the insecurities you suffer. The child should also have a decent appreciation of women if he is male and a sense of self worth if female.

All together a decent human being - do not let man-made rules control your decisions on this point.

It has been forbidden by Allah te'ala for a muslim woman to marry a christian man (or any non-muslim man). Such an act is totally impermissible for muslim woman.

Even muslim men are taking their allowance to marry an ahle kitab woman too easy. Mixed marriages have been practised for hundred of years in Balkans. But as far as I know this practice was not so common in muslim areas outside Europe (some mixed marriages did happen though, but not many).
A muslim man is allowed to marry a kitabi woman if:
-she is veiled as prescribed in Qur'an
-she will not teach her religion to children
-she IS A VIRGIN!
-she has good behaviour
It is makruh to marry a non-muslim woman if muslimat are available.

But I should stress that majority of christian women in south-east and Eastern Europe were veiled until 19th or 20th century.

A muslimah who marries a kafir of any kind (including ahle kitab) should be killed as a murtad (this fatwah is supported by most of 'ulama). Although this had never happened in the time of Mohammed pbuh and his as-haba. I know some cases from my country but these girls do not believe in Allah swt but only origin from muslim cultural background (consequnce of communism).

A muslim woman does NOT marry a christian. Thinking about marrying one is a sign of your weak Eaman, sister.

Allah sizi razi olsun ve huzura do�ru gitin.
Allah'a emanet olun