AsSalaamu Alaykum
No one can vouch for a man's true character better than his wife, so why isn't there a matrimonial service out there based on this premise?
Possible benefits:
1. first wife participates in assisting her husband in this lawful quest
2. first wife finds someone for her husband that they are both compatible with
3. husband avoids needless contact with unsuitable females
4. husband is less likely to have to contend with petty jealousy if wives have already learned to communicate
5. perspective wife avoids needless contact with unsuitable males
6. perspective wife receives first hand character assessment of husband
7. future expectations of all concerned,for a successful relationship, can be sorted out before actual commitment

On behalf of all those first wives and single sisters who would practice polygyny if only....

Why do women want to burden themselves
with this...I don't get it!
Is this a need to control something?

Can you not accept the men handleling
this sunnah? You are attempting to take
the role away from the men, the gaurdians,
and replace yourself to be the woman's
protector. Do you feel you can do a
better job than legislation? SUBHANA'ALLAH
Some women use this to face and cover a
fear yet implicate it to be iman.
My question is WHY?

See by my experience: I once worked myself
up to find a second wife for a husband
of mines(ex) and got myself really
worked up for the job. Met a nice, beautiful
charming sister-khimar down, family oriented,
close with her family,very charming and
dude was like naw. Right then I stepped
back and told myself 'self' leave it alone.
And this sister had no children, could have
given dude children, etc.
So to me polygamy is a man thing to where
hey we as the wife just be patient
and trust in ALLAH all of the time and
stop being insecure so now you just have
to be a part of the process.
I told my husband that never let me
be the reason for him not to do something
good. And were he to seek another wife
to go for the best which is a virgin, there.
My job ended there with my husband in
regards to polygamy.
Subhana'LAHi wa bihamdhi

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Assalaamu A'laykum..

So is this the world for only Males?

I will say no...
Because, Polygamy necessarily is not the way we can Live NOW.. IN THIS TIME!

I know you must be saying, Well Thats what our Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) did...

BUT..

He did it Because, It was an Era where the Women were being tortured, and Sold by people, Since they are physically VERY weak from the Males...

and that was the barbaric time.. Only the Survial Of the FITTEST... so there was NO value of education like its NOW.. So only the People Who had Strength could Dominate the Weaks.. Thus, the women were Pitted and Beaten, Humiliated, Raped.. By the Barbaric people.. Women had NO respect No one who could help them.. since there was only few muslims then.. and all the Kaffeers were Doing all the Wrong dids to The Women... Thus.. To save them, Our Prophet told his men, that its Jaez.. To marry the Helpless women.. JUST FOR THEIR SAKE!!!!!! TO SAVE THEM!!!!! and NOT FOR FULLFILLING Their OWN desires!!!

and Now.. Women are strong.. they know how to protect themselves..through education.. SUbhanallah..!!!and that's Because, Of Islam... and Thus..

There is NO need of Polygamy...

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.

Allah The Most High has said:

"Whoever obeys the Messenger, has obeyed Allah."(4:80)

"Whatever the Messenger gives you, then take it and whatever he prohibits you, then stay away from it."(59:7)

"Today I have completed for you your Religion and perfected My Favour upon you, and have chosen Islaam as your Religion(Deen)."(5:3)


The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa salaam) said:

"O people, I have left amongst you that which if you cling onto you will never go astray; The Book of Allah and my Sunnah." al-Haakim.

"To proceed; Indeed the best speech is the book of Allah and the best guidance is the guidance of Muhammad, and the worst of affairs are the newly invented matters, and every innovation is misguidance." Muslim.


You are not the first person (you won't be the last either) to use the 'That was then, This is now' argument. It has no basis in Islam and is not the belief of those who follow the Quran and Sunnah.

How can we claim to follow Islam if we make the halal, haram and the haram, halal?
How can we claim to be of those who submit their will to the Will of Allah if we dislike that which Allah and His Messenger(SAW) has prescribed?
How can we claim to follow the Messenger(SAW) while we are following our desires?

The Book of Allah and the Sunnah of Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wa salaam) is clear and precise. The Deen of Islam has been completed and it is perfect. It has been prescribed for the whole of mankind from the time of the Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa salaam) until the Last Day.

A Muslim is one who accepts the deen of Islam totally, without dispute or dislike of its rules and regulations, without adding or subtracting anything to it. The deen of Islam is based upon knowledge with its proofs. It is for this reason that there will not cease to be a group of people who will remain steadfast upon the straight path. So those who oppose the correct path are only fooling themselves and have no proof for what they do. This applies to any aspect of Islam.


I sincerely hope you can bring yourself to accept the truth.
Do you really think that women in the US/GBR are more superior to women in other countries because they have jobs?
I'm sure the millions of 'helpless' women (as you put it), would disagree with you. They would argue that it takes a strong woman to fulfil her real responsibilities. To look after the family and raise their children upon good character and deen, those same children who will form society. Those women who have the responsibility of moulding society itself. To expect them to do all this and be forced to earn a living would indeed be oppressive (as is the case in the US/UK). Rather, the honour, respect and position they have is far greater than any job can ever give.

Alhamdulillah.

To start with, I think, in addition to studying the Qur'an, everyone should study the history of the times of Muhammad, then the reasons behind advocating polygamy would become clearer.
Muhammad sought to solve social problems in his times. Times change.

Consider global overpopulation. I know a 35-year-old whose immediate family (parents, brothers, sisters) numbers 38! Allah has given us a brain to think and logic should tell us that the planet cannot sustain this ever-increasing population. Allah has also given rights to the plant and animal kingdom and we are driving them into extinction.

A monogamous relationship gives us the opportunity to relate to a spouse on a deeper level (if we are prepared to do so) and create a true relationship, not just a servant or sexual partner.