Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
As Salamu Aliekum Warahmatullahi Rabarakatu
All Praise is due to Allah, we praise Him, and seek His help and forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah, Most High, from the evils of our own selves and from our wicked deeds. Whosoever has been guided by Allah, none can misguide him, and whoever has been misguided by Allah, none can guide him. I bear witness that there is no true god worthy of being worshipped except Allah,
alone, without partner or associate. I further bear witness the Muhammad (SAW) is His true slave and Messenger. May Allah, the Exalted, bestow His peace and blessing on the final Prophet Muhammad, upon his good and pure family, and upon all of his noble companions.
O you who believe! Fear Allah (by doing all that He ordered and abstaining from all that He forbade) as He should be feared, and
die not except in a state of Islam (As Muslims with complete submission to Allah) . (Qur�aan 3:102)
O mankind! Be dutiful to your Rabb (Allaah), Who created you from a single soul (Adam) and from him (Adam) He created his wife, and from them both He created many men and women, and fear
Allaah through Whom you demand your mutual rights and don�t cut the relations of the wombs (Kinship). Surely, Allaah is ever an
All-Watcher over you. (Qur�aan 4:1)
O you who believe! Keep your duty to Allaah and fear Him, and speak (always) the truth, He will direct you to righteous good deeds and will forgive you your sins. And whosoever obeys Allaah
and His Messenger, he has indeed achieved a great
success. (Qur�aan 33:70-71)
The most truthful speech is that of Allaah�s Book (the Qur�aan)
and the finest of guidance is that of Muhammad (SAW). The worst of evils are innovations (foreign to the true teachings of Islaam), and every innovated matter (in religion) is a Bid�ah,
and every Bid�ah is a Dalaalah (stray path, misguidance), and
every Dalaalah is in the Fire of Hell. (Khutbatul Haajah)

Dear Brothers and Sisters in Islam,

The condition of the Muslim Family today is appalling. We have more that 60% of our marriages ending in divorce, many children being raised by the mother or a man who is not the father. Then
there is the other category of woman who has been unable to find a husband for one reason or another. What does this have to do with polygyny? Most of women getting married for the first time
exclude the possibility of being the second or third wife of an Islamic Qualified and financially stable brother. So from my
experiences, I have found that many women have chosen for a mate a man who not the best of the potential candidates but he was single. Subsequently, the fact that the she was the mans only wife was not enough to make the marriage work and the wife and the kids were divorced. I did mean to say that the kids were divorced because in many cases the father must be cut-off from seeing them for some reason or the lady denies him the right to see them because he is not fulfilling his financial responsibilities. Most of the divorced women are now more
willing to consider the man with more that one wife because all of a sudden being the only wife is not as important as being a wife in a stable relationship with a good Muslim man. Not to say
that this is the case of all divorced women, but that lady who has been married 4 or five times looks to the man with 2 wives and he has been married to them for 7 and 14 years and they are
the only husband that they have ever had,she has to think about what's more important. So I am advocating that Muslim women and the Muslim fathers or brothers seek out the best and most
suitable man regardless if he is already married. Married in Islam means a man has 4 wives. Marrying our good Muslim brothers
to our good Muslim sisters without excluding the possibility of be 1 of 2, 1 of 3 or 1 of 4 will help to establish more stable and lasting marriages. Again this is not a type of relationship for everyone but the Muslims should begin to give it more serious consideration. Every Muslim man is not able to handle
this, but there are some who can. Every Muslim lady can't handle this type of marriage but many need to. Believe it or not there is Zina among the Muslims most of the participants have been
married men and unmarried Muslim women. Are the Muslim men so weak that if they need another woman that they don't make sure that that women is his wife. Are the Muslim ladies so weak that
rather that marry a man with another wife that she resorts to Zina. About my perspective and me. I was a Muslim who wanted another wife and I married another Muslimah. My first wife was
unhappy at first, which is normal, but is ok with it now. I have been married to one wife for 13 Years and the other for 6 Years. I have 7 soon to be nine children Inshallah. We are from the
NY/NJ area. We have watched marriages of the people who had negative opinions about us crumble and al Humdulillah we are still going strong. It is well known to my wives that I intend to take a third wife and they understand that to be 1 of my 3 is better that being the only 1 of someone else or 1 of none.

As Salaamu Aliekum

AsSalaamu Alaykum

So true, but failed marriages and zina are merely the results of submission to Shaytaan, as opposed to Allah. Any sister or brother, regardless of his/her marital status, could be led astray.
Increased taqwa and 'ilm-addeen are what are required to prevent zina, as well as failed marriages, of any sort.

And may Allah protect and bless you and your partners in marriage.