How do you overcome crushes, are they permissible?

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Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message  By Anonymous on Saturday, October 19, 2002 - 02:58 am:

I would really like someone to answer this question for me. I am young and unmarried and i want to ask you if it is permissible to have "crushes"_ to like a muslim guy.


but this to the extent that you do not do something unislamic, just about the feeling. is it right? is it permissible?

i will be most thankful if someone could reply soon.

wasalaam


Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message  By Safiyyah on Tuesday, November 5, 2002 - 03:09 pm:

Assalamu Alaykum sister
Firstly how could you have a crush on the brother in the first place. You must have looked enough at this brother to realise you liked him. This in itself is not permissible. We are told to lower our gaze to preven t things like this happening. Do you know the brother. If so why not get someone from your family to find out if he is married, that would be more halal for you.
I reccomend that you stay away from wherever this brother is and if you cannot control your desires or find it tough then I suggest you fast. This is from Shaytan and you need to fight these feelings.
I hope this has helped a little
Your sister
Safiyyah


Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message  By Anonymous on Friday, November 8, 2002 - 03:04 pm:

the feelings are gone now, crushes come and go, i have no sentiments towards him now and o, he is unmarried too.

thank you for ur help sister safiyah,

Allah hafiz


Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message  By ??????????????? ( - 24.188.249.104) on Friday, January 10, 2003 - 03:55 pm:

im 12 and i have a crush at school what do i do?


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