Assalamo Alaikum,
Two years ago my husband decided to take a second wife because I might not be able to give him a child. He told me after he did. I was very disappointed in him because I sacrificed my life for him for over 20 yrs. He never told me that he wanted to have children so bad like that. Im in a verge of a nervous breakdown right now.
I dont think I can go through my life being very unhappy with my situation. I need someone to advice me or tell me their experience about polygamy bcoz over the past 2 yrs I have been blocking it off in my mind to the point that I need to deal with it before I will end my marriage. My husband is good to me and I have always been good to him too...Should I sacrifice my happiness and watch him have a family with another woman....hmmmmm i dont think I can!!!

Alwayz4evah

Assaalm Alakium,
My name is Haneefah and I've never been in this situation but, I have friends who have. I dont see how people can do it. Stay with their husband if he has more than one wife. It makes you feel like your not doing something right. It didnt work out with my friends who's been in a polygamous marriage. I know you love him but this is something your gonna have to work out with you and your husband. But if it was me I'd ask for a divorce.

Assalam Alakum,
Sister my name is Halimah I have 3children from a previous married. I just married 2 months ago my husband has no children we had discuss it together I cant have any more children and I know it would be selfish of me to ask him not to get another wife because I know he needs children he is good to me and my children and inshallah when he takes another wife I will be good to his. He told me when he do I will meet her first and I am happy that he care enough about me to tell me. but sister everyone is not at that stage in there life where they want to share there husband and I sure when it does happen I will be hurt but he need children. So sister dont look it as a bad thing he loved your for 20 years that can not be replaced.

Dear sister, I realise that u r very hurt by this situation, but there r other factors involved that u can think about. What if ur husband did not marry her and have an illicit relationship with her? What if he was going out at night and staying out at night and u did not know where he was? What if he constantly lied about his whereabouts and money that was disappearing from ur household? What if children were born to this relationship and they had no father properly? Sister all of these things would be sinful for him and u do not want him to do this just for ur emotional satisfaction. u would have to give account for causing this situation. Not only that sister sin begets more sin and this kind of illicit behaviour would proliferate into something that might bring disease into ur household. Remeber this is his right from Allah (SWT) and who r u to deny him what Allah (SWT) has made lawful for him.