Assalamualaikum war wab

My dear sisters-in-Islam...
The muslim matrimony website do help in single muslimin and muslimah to meet their respective soulmates. However, how does one draw a line when one needs to observe that communication via email does not contradict Islam. I understand many of our muslimahs who wants to settle down, are looking for suitable, compatible and taqwa muslimins as their future husbands, but in the course of communication ...such feelings of love and affection do grow and sometimes it is difficult to prevent such emotional feelings. But, at the same time such muslimahs too want to observe the adab of Islam in communication.

Do give your views and advice on how best to deal with this. Yes! as muslims we are to make an effort to search for our life partner, who is pious, taqwa and compatible in our needs.

May Allah help us in our Ibadah to uphold Islam at all times, amien ya robbal aalamien.

Salam, your sister, Adawiyah

In The Name of Allah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.


Just some friendly advice:

In Islam, sisters require a 'Walee'(male guardian) in respect to marriage.

As we know, the Islamic marriage is not possible without a Walee.

Part of his (the Walee) role before the marriage is meeting with the prospective brother and his assessing the suitability of that brother in respect to his Deen and Character.

In doing so, this is a safety net/protection of the sister's honour (as they should be honoured, respected and protected) as well as other issues.

So by contemplating upon this fact, we can see that the problems you have mentioned will be avoided. Clearly, this is from the perfection of Islam and Allah is The Most Wise.


In respect to using the Net to find a marriage partner:

Marrying someone known to your local islamic community or family is more appropriate, as the condition of their Deen and character can be more easily enquired upon and with more accuracy (i.e. confirmed).

Even though the Net has its benefits, in this respect (re: marriage) it appears that it may not be suitable. And Allah knows best.


So, as advice and a warning:

If one deviates away from the Quran and the Sunnah in any matter, you will have no one to blame but yourself when you find yourself in some kind of Fitnah. And know, you WILL find yourself in some kind of Fitnah.

May Allah guide us all to His Straight Path. Ameen.